So Hate Is Also Love?

In response to my Paolo Coelho post, Atha asked - So hate is also love?

Hm...

No. Not quite. At least not in the way that I know it.

We're meant to recognize that there are negative emotions in life. They are such things as hate, jealousy, pain, and anger. These emotions exist. We're not denying that.

We're also assuming the truth that love exists everywhere. It is something we cannot escape, fall in and out of, or look for. Love is consciousness, consciousness is the present, the present is now, and now is life as we know it. If you follow that a = b = c theory, than love is life.

That is established.

So then what do we do with all the negativity in life? Ignoring it, I feel, will be the wrong way to approach it. That would be childish, immature, and not embracing.

I think what a lot of us fail to realize is that when we feel this negative emotion - hate, for the sake of conversation - it is toward something or someone. The reason we feel this negative emotion is because deep inside, that aspect that we hate that is manifested in that person or object or situation, exists within ourselves as well. If you say that you hate someone because they are self-absorbed, you are also stating that 'self-absorbed' also exists within yourself, one of the reasons why you can recognize it, and you are disturbed by that.

Then how do we rid ourselves of these negative emotions?

This is where love comes in.

You can accept love as something that is all existing. Now, you must also accept that you are full of love and are also lovable.

We fall into this pit of negativity, often because we feel this negativity that exists within ourselves makes us unlovable. In return, that negative emotion is driven further, and there is an endless cycle of negative emotion and self-degradation. Thus to break free of this cycle - it's hard, I know, I have a hard time with it as well - is to accept that you are lovable. You can also return this love. There becomes an endless cycle of love.

If you can accept that you are capable of loving and that you are lovable, then there can't be hate that exists within you, because when you see someone, you can't hate someone because that negative emotion is not reflected in you. You don't have it.

That's not to say that since you don't have these negative emotions you can't recognize it other people. You can recognize it in other people, which is why 'loving' - and I don't mean this at all in any sexual way, though it is another important aspect of love that we can touch on later - is important. You have to help that other person with negative feelings to realize that they are loved as well.

In a weird sense, this also means you can't wait for love. It's not something that will come to you. It already exists all around you. So it's a matter of whether you can recognize this love within yourself and understand it.

There are ways to do this, excercises you can do. If I find it appropriate, I may share some later.

I hope that make a little bit of sense. As I was writing it, it made sense to me, but then I also realized that this could be really circular and not make sense...

I'll leave it like this for now, espcially since I'm writing this at work.

lunch time!

bjs